The thrill of her hunt, how to get man buttlove, deciding when to ride bareback, breaking up with a persistent geek, and why nerds rule. Shake that booty, baby!
In The Blink Of A Nookie, She's Gone!
Gotta love your column, you own! I'm an average 16yr old male Quaker, no
physical ailments (apparenly i'm attractive and i'm well "equipt")...About 4
months ago i met a girl, had seen her around for quite a long time but i had
never really talked to her...We got to know eachother pretty fast...About a
week later she invited me to a sleepover. She forgot to mention the fact
that i was the only one sleeping over. Being a nerd i'm pretty shy and i
normally don't take the first step, so she did...She got on top of me,
kissed me, and soon after she made me a man.
Since then we've made out and done some other stuff (no more sex though).
Now heres the problem: About two weeks ago she just shut off. She doesn't
want to hang out, doesn't talk to me online as much, and she doesn't even
seem to want to hug me. Whats up with her? I really care for her and i
don't want to lose her...What to do?
If that was all it took to be a man, the world would be full of "men", instead of "moronic wastes of skin", but I digress. What you describe above is, unfortunatley, a classic case of the hunter and her prey. Your hootchiemama there is an addict, oh yes: she is addicted to the thrill of the chase. The tingle of her hunt is what drives her. You shot, she scored, and now that she's got you, she's bored. Slam-dunk. Now she is just trying to spare herself the chore of actually breaking up with you, so she's treating you like a leprosy patient in the hopes that you'll get the hint and leave her. What kind of teenage girl invites a boy over for a sleepover and jumps him, anyway? Yuck. Cut your losses and move on. You'll feel better eventually.
Hey Mynx, been reading your column thingy for awhile, mostly for personal
amusement, but also for VERY useful info. Anyways, on to my problem, I like
to look at some "soft" porn (no boobies or nudity, basically legal for my
tender 14 year old eyes) and I often fantasize while "hailing the chief"
usually about girls... but lately it's been about the kid down the street,
we're good friends, have been through a lot together, talk about this sorta
stuff a lot (but it's always about chicks) and I have spent a long time
thinking and have apparently done the inevitable, fallen in *love* with the
same gender, I always have wondered about what's it like and stuff. How do I
get him to "try me out" or at least let me get to a base with him? I NEED
YOUR RESPONSE!!! Post this, please?
Well, you know, bung fun is kind of like fried squid: either you like it, or you don't. If the little boy you are sweet on doesn't swing that way, I just don't see it happening. My guess is that you're not really hot for his little tater tot... it is normal and typical to have "crushes" on friends at your age. You want to hang out with them all the time, talk like them, act like them.. it is part of being a teenager and trying on different styles before finding one that fits you. 'Course, if you really DO have your drool on for your pal's chubby, the only real chance you have is to tell him. Just let him know that you really enjoy spending time with him, and see if he responds favorably. You don't want to just up and grab him by the clackers or slip him the tongue or something. Bad idea.
When Is It Okay To Ride Bareback?
I've been a loyal reader for quite some time and have always admired your
knack for giving straightforward, truthful answers to the lest socially
adept members of our community. (I'm sure you've heard this next bit
before.) I never thought I'd be the one in need of advice, though, until
some recent issues have come to light. I dated a girl from my high school
for almost 2 and 1/2 years before I ended up asking her to marry me. This
was over last spring break (spring 2000), and things have been getting
better ever since. It's so wonderful being completely in love and to have
someone who feels the same way about you. Anyway, let me get to the point.
About a month ago, we finally gave in and decided to become sexually active.
We both wanted to wait until after we were married, but we also want to
wait to do that until after we both get our undergraduate degrees (we're
both Juniors in college at the moment). The tension was too much for us,
and it felt silly getting all worked up and not actually doing the deed. We
were both virgins and monogamous so there is no danger of sexually
transmitted diseases. My question is this: Given our current situation,
would it be just as safe contraceptive wise to use "the pill" instead of a
condom? The few times we've had sex, I've been so paranoid about the condom
coming off that I haven't been able to really enjoy it as much as I could.
We're trying to be careful because we definitely can't handle a baby right
now. If you were in our place, what would you do?
Thanks, Mynx, you're the greatest. :)
My boob reaction (works better than my gut) is that you guys probably would be on the safe side. I would recommend that you keep condoms on hand, however, because the pill's effectiveness decreases sharply with user error. If your bootygirl forgets to take it one day, you should add condoms to the mix just to be "safe". When I was in your position, I did choose to use the pill. Of course, I ended up with a baby... ;)
Loving And Leaving A Nerd
I'm an 18 year-old female, and have been romantically involved with a hot
gamer-child for the past 10 months or so. He introduced me to Quake, and to
the wonder that is you. I owe him a large debt of gratitude--we shared some
great times together. Unfortunately, we no longer see eye to eye, and have
fundamental differences which have torn us apart. There is just too much
water under the bridge for it to ever work between us. We both wanted to
work things out, and have been trying to do so for 5 months now. In that
time I've realized that some things just can't be fixed, and I am exhausted.
I have told him that I think we should call it quits, but he won't give up.
My question is this: How can I get him to understand that although we were
once great together, it's time for us to part ways? He thinks I'm giving up
too easily, and he refuses to acknowledge that it just won't work. What can
I say to make him accept the fact that it's over, that we both need to move
on, but that I'm thankful for the time we spent together? I'm hoping that
he might listen to you, since he refuses to listen to me...
Here's a wild butthair of an idea: Maybe you can't make him think anything! See, you say that he refuses to acknowledge that your relationship won't work.. but, really, you're giving him "permission" to act like that. If you really want out, you need to let him know in no uncertain terms that this romantic relationship is OVER, and then walk away. Don't take his phone calls, send his email to dev/null, and for the love of nipple, don't play Quake with him. You have made your decision. You need to extract yourself from the situation and start getting on with your life. Give him the same opportunity.. allowing him the access to try and convince you that this will work is only keeping him hanging and causing him pain. Let him go. It is for the best.
Geeks!! GEEEEEEEEEEEKS! Geeks fucking ROCK!
I guess this isn't really a question, I just would like to make a statement.
I'm female if that matters..which in this column it seems to. (BTW this is
the coolest place to go!) Up until the beginning of my senior year, I
wouldn't give the time of day to the so called nerds. I was sooooo
interested in simply trying to impress the popular people and their seemingly
fantastic lives. wrong. I'm not sure what changed my viewpoint. It may have
been a friendship that sparked between me and a boy from another school who
is labeled as one of the 'nerds'. This guy showed me so much, about myself
and about everything...and I was like, hey he isn't so bad, in fact this is
one of the best friendships I have ever been in. So I started talking to the
rest of the 'nerds'...and by Christmas I had joined a LAN group (gasp!) and I
love to play Fire Arms. The popular people can kiss my ass...now I see them
as the biggest losers that walk the planet. I hate that I potentially missed
out on the three best years of my life trying to suck up to them. I am glad
that I have found real people, and they don't care if you went to the best
party or how you dress, they like you for you. But anyway...I just wanted
everyone out there to know, I'd rather hang at the lan parties then with the
fake butt kissing losers that pretend they are perfect. That is all I wanted
to say. Being with the popular crowd and the geeks, I have two words: Nerds
You have seen the light, girlfriend. Go on witcho badsef. I am going to change the world, one nerd-lover at a time. Oh yes, I shall.